Clarion Call for all Singles….

My fellow singles, I’m quite concerned about us, someone has fed us the lie that our lives don’t start or make sense outside the confines of marriage. We are subtly culturally conditioned to treat singleness as a handicap; the bridge between where we were and where we are going, so rather than enjoy and make the most of the opportunities singleness presents, we fret and worry about tomorrow-meeting the right person, having a family etc., clearly contravening Matthew 6:34.

This post not in any way to denigrate marriage; there is much to be desired regarding it and I would encourage every single to pray and prepare for marriage. God created it, so it is good, glorious and beautiful to the extent that it reflects Christ’s relationship with the church (Ephesians 5:22-29). Also two are definitely better than one(Ecclesiastes 4:9), but there is equally and perhaps even more unequivocally a glory that God ascribes to singleness to that is often not discussed or even celebrated.

In 1 Corinthians 7:7, the bible describes singleness as a gift! Elaborating on that, the chapter goes on to explain that a single person is free from the clutter of the world and able to concentrate on serving God. We often treat singleness like the irritating hyphen separating the milestones of adolescence and marriage. On the contrary, we are not in suspended animation till we get married; but in our prime and must commit the season to doing the Master’s work.

Friends, as with all gifts, we will give account to God for how we used it,so please let’s redeem the time, get about our Fathers business while it is today and serve him extravagantly in this time of freedom from family cares and concerns. There is a time for everything, and every season has a purpose and while we are single, our primary mandate is to please God. According to Paul, singleness offers us the freedom to serve and pursue God wholeheartedly, to concentrate on simply pleasing Him, and to be devoted to Him in body and in spirit. (1 Corinthians 7:32-34).

This is not to say it is wrong to desire or work towards marriage; absolutely not. The bible encourages us to do that, however in keeping with my subject matter, 1 Corinthians 7:29 instructs us that the time is short and charges even those who are married to be about Gods service as though they were single. If the married are so charged, how much more of a responsibility do singles have to steward this season of life in God’s service?

I heard a heartbreaking statistic, that only about 5% of the over 1 billion people in India have heard the gospel, and I believe singleness offers the perfect opportunity to be out in the trenches spreading God’s good news. I believe we can be a part of the sent-ones, taking God’s word to the nations as we are free from the concerns and imperatives of spouse and kids, and even if we cannot go, free from the bulk of responsibilities that married people face, we can send, sponsor and support the missionaries.

This is also not a time free of rewards; as we maximize the opportunities for service that singleness provides, God rewards every effort (Hebrews 6:10); and interestingly promises all who remain single in Christ blessings that are better than the blessings of marriage and children. In Isaiah 56:5, God promises…. I will give them in my house and within my walls a monument and a name better than sons and daughters; I will give them an everlasting name that shall not be cut off…So for those who never end up getting married, procreating and having descendants to continue a family name, God promises so much better- an everlasting name that will NEVER be cut off.

Some of the greatest people who ever lived, especially Jesus and Paul, were never married, but they lived passionate, God filled, God fuelled lives. As we run the race of life, looking unto Jesus (Hebrews 12:1-2), we can look to His love and devotion to his friends (John 15:15), his sacrificial nature (Philippians 2:4-11), his deep love for all ; and model our singleness after him and spend our lives doing good to others especially to those who belong to the family of believers(Galatians 6:10).

I am not naïve about the loneliness that could accompany singleness, and our innate need for families or companionship, but the great assurance we have is that even if we never got married this side of eternity, it is only a hair’s-breadth compared to eternity. Marriage is temporary, and finally gives way to the relationship to which it was pointing all along: Christ and the church. Marriage relationships would no longer matter in eternity (Luke 20:34-35); the way a picture is no longer needed when you see face to face. Also as great as families are, no family relationship is ultimate; relationship to Christ is-He is the friend who never leaves nor forsakes us and sticks closer than a brother(Hebrews 13:5, Proverbs 18:24), so being in relationship with Christ defines the value of life; and all other relationships get their final significance from this.

Also for our concerned married friends, please don’t consistently pepper our talks with pitying looks and frequent assurances that our singleness will soon pass, while this encouragement has its place, and we appreciate the concern, may I suggest that you spend more time shifting our focus back to God, motivating us to be about Gods business, and keeping us accountable in that regard.

I hope you are encouraged by this to enjoy where you are. God says our time and seasons are determined by Him (Acts 17:26), so know that if you are in a single season, it’s because God has a purpose in it, be a faithful steward, use it maximally, do something, improve your education, learn a new language, sport, or craft, travel, serve others, but most of all invest the time in serving God in your body and spirit for that’s why that season was gifted to you. Make the most of every opportunity for soon you will look on that past season with nostalgia (Ephesians 5:16).

Above all, I pray that the eyes of our hearts are enlightened so much so that we know and are so enthralled by God, we find completion and satisfaction in Him; that we love and serve Him irrespective of what season of life we are in, trusting that He knows what is best for us and only gives us good gifts (James 1:17, Matthew 7:11).

Shalom fam 🙂


4 Comments (+add yours?)

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  2. belladoo
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 17:19:09

    Amazing! Aisha, Thank you so much for this I am really touched. May His words continue to glow through you.


  3. belladoo
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 17:20:32

    Amazing! Aisha, Thank you so much for this I am really touched. May His words continue to flow through you and draw us to Him.


  4. Trackback: Clarion Call for all Singles….The Sequel « ramblingswan

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